Respectful and humble forms are both polite; they point in opposite directions. Never use respectful forms for yourself.
Short answer: keigo (敬語) is the system of respectful language. It has three parts. 尊敬語 (respectful) is used for what other people do: 先生がいらっしゃいました, “the teacher has arrived”. 謙譲語 (humble) is used for what you do for them: 私が参ります, “I will go”. 丁寧語 is the polite です and ます you already know. Most keigo is a short list of special verbs plus two patterns.
The special verbs
These replace the ordinary verb entirely. Learn them as pairs: respectful for others, humble for yourself.
Plain
Respectful (they)
Humble (I)
行く・来る・いる
いらっしゃるirassharu
参るmairu / おる oru (いる)
言う
おっしゃるossharu
申すmōsu
する
なさるnasaru
いたすitasu
食べる・飲む
召し上がるmeshiagaru
いただくitadaku
見る
ご覧になるgoran ni naru
拝見するhaiken suru
知っている
ご存じだgozonji da
存じているzonjite iru
もらう
None
いただくitadaku
くれる
くださるkudasaru
None
Two patterns for every other verb
Verbs without a special form use お + stem + になる (respectful) or お + stem + する (humble). Many noun + する verbs use ご instead: ご説明します.
お〜になる: they do
お〜する: I do (for you)
Keigo you will hear every day
You do not need to produce these yet, but you will hear them in every shop, station and hotel.
Keigo nouns and set words
Keigo replaces some everyday nouns and words too.
Keigo
Meaning
Everyday word
onsha
your company (spoken)
会社
kisha
your company (written)
会社
heisha
our company (humble)
会社
kochira
this (person, place)
これ, ここ
dochira
where, who (polite)
どこ, 誰
shōshō
a little
少し
tadaima
right now
今
yoroshii
good, all right
いい
Building a keigo sentence step by step
From a plain sentence to business keigo, one step at a time.
Keigo in email
Fixed humble phrases that open and close business email.
お世話になっておりますosewa ni natte orimasuthank you for your support
Osewa ni natte orimasu.“Thank you for your continued support.”Why:Humble おる.
ご確認gokakuninconfirmationいただけますとitadakemasu toif I could receive幸いですsaiwai desuI’d be grateful
Gokakunin itadakemasu to saiwai desu.“I’d be grateful if you could check.”Why:A very soft request.
Yamada-sama wa irasshaimasu ka. · “Is Mr Yamada there?”いらっしゃる: respectful “is”.
Staff
申し訳ございませんmōshiwake gozaimasenI’m very sorry山田YamadaYamadaはwa(topic)ただいまtadaimaright now席sekideskをo(object)外しておりますhazushite orimasuis away (humble)
Mōshiwake gozaimasen. Yamada wa tadaima seki o hazushite orimasu. · “I’m sorry, Yamada is away from his desk.”Talking to an outsider: no さん on her own colleague, and humble おります.